What Services does Inheritance Adoptions Provide to Birth parents?
- Help expectant parents no matter the situation, if they place for adoption or parent their child, all free of charge
- Provide transportation to all physician appointments if needed
- Offer an alternative to abortion and help with a parenting plan if you choose to parent
- Help connect you to recourses as well as help you apply for those recourses if necessary and provide transportation to mandatory appointments with those agencies.
- Assist clients in finding employment, getting back into school, and provide GED tutoring
- Provide a ministry for our clients, spiritual guidance, and provide a positive support system for clients
- Speak to family members or friends who are unsure of the adoption, or just have questions
Is Adoption for Me?
Adoption is the option least considered by birth mothers who face an unintended pregnancy, even though 48% are said to be unplanned according to Guttmacher. You are not alone! A very common thought is “After carrying a baby for nine months, I just couldn’t give him/her away.” An important point to consider is that adoption is not about giving a baby away or providing a baby for a family; rather it is about providing a family for a baby. In the past 25 years, adoption has undergone major advances and changes. In order for a birth parent to have a true choice, he/she must have a complete understanding of the options.
What is Adoption?
- Adoption is the loving act of a birth parent choosing a permanent family to nurture and care for her child. Adoption IS an act of parenting. It is the act of providing the nurture and protection a child needs by choosing an adoptive family.
- Adoption is a special and unique bond fashioned through the lifelong love that birth parents and adoptive parents both share for a child. There can never be too many people to love a child.
- Adoption is a birth mothers ability to provide a future for her child and for herself that could not be provided if she were to parent the child.
What Does Adoption Look Like Now?
Adoption in the new millennium looks very OPEN. The birth parents choose the family who will adopt their child. The birth parents maintain a relationship with the child and his/her adoptive family through the years. They may exchange letters, pictures and presents; they may even exchange e-mails or talk on the phone. The level of openness is agreed upon by the birth parents and the adoptive parents. They often see each other face to face. All of the openness gives the birth parents a sense of security and satisfaction that their child is loved and well cared for. Most importantly, the openness is created for the benefit of the child. It gives him/her the opportunity to know where he/she came from. The level of openness may fluctuate through the years based upon the needs of the child.
Who Benefits from Open Adoption?
- A sense of identity because of acess to birth family history and famiy tree.
- Self-confidence by being able to answer “Who am I?” and “Where did I come from?”.
- Protection from abandonment with knowing reason why he/she was placed for adoption.
- A complete history and a ready source of medical information and support.
- The knowledge that he/she is loved by his/her birth parents.
- Knowledge of the truth (not feeling that there are secrets).
The Birth Parents
- Sense of control with active participation in the placement process.
- Reduced uncertainties through interactions and updates from adoptive family.
- Reduced guilt with an on-going communication about child’s well-being.
- Healthy grieving and encouragement by being able to visit and talk with adoptive family.
- The potential of developing a special relationship with the child.
The Adoptive Family
- Confidence when answering their child’s questions.
- Reduced fear because of interaction with the birthmother or birthfamily before and after birth.
- A sense of entitlement to parent and affirmation knowing they were chosen to parent the child.
- Ability to be medically informed with medical histiory.
- The opportunity to build a relationship with the birthmother and birthfamily.